Relationships – Why do we not feel comfortable being “who we think we are”?
The first and most important of ALL Relationships is our Relationship with ourselves.
The reason we are writing about Relationships is because everything we do in this life is connected to some sort of Relationship.
We published an article titled; Relationships – interesting!! on Saturday, January 31, 2009 which we republished in full in yesterdays edition.
It is indeed an interesting subject and we shall be investigating the first part of what we republished yesterday in our article today.
Our headline asks the Question of why we are not at ease with ourselves.
Most Human Beings have an issue of not being comfortable within themselves in many situations.
Why is this case?
Why is it that we get bored so easily?
Why is it that I wish I was somewhere else rather than where am?
Why is it that we need others to give us happiness or a sense of worth?
Why is it that when I get into a Romantic situation and things are going well do I sabotage it?
Why do I constantly feel the need of someone to give me their attention so that I can feel like they love me or like me?
Why am I not happy within myself when I’m completely alone?
All of the above Questions are, when we look at them on an individual basis a sign of being connected to who we think we are.
The Thinking Mind is always trying to be somewhere else rather than where they are.
The Thinking Mind cannot be comfortable within itself unless it is either pleasing someone or wrapping itself up in some obsessive behaviour.
The Thinking Mind wants to be anywhere other than be in the PRESENT.
The Thinking Mind cannot understand what IS so it seeks out what it considers as being important which is connected to some Past event or some Future happening.
An example of being controlled by our thinking Minds is when we say to everyone we meet that we shall not be happy until we go on holiday or vacation.
It also applies to when we say that we shall not be happy until someone we were in a Romantic Relationship that has ended either comes back to us or is punished for what they have supposedly done to us.
Another example of how we are controlled by our Thinking mind is when we get bored with where we are.
There are many other examples of how we are being controlled by who we think we are that would take many volumes to explain.
Let us look at the first part of our January 2009 issue and as we do so observe how we feel as we do so.
Here it is in BOLD TYPE below;
“Relationships – interesting!!
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Category – Relationships
It’s surprising how many people go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves.
If you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.
The reason for relationships is not happiness – but transformation.
These words are meaningful when we look at our relationships whether they be Romantic or otherwise.
PSYCHEGNOSIS explains in great detail the way to this tranformation.
To try and fix who we believe we are is not the solution.
This has been tried ever since man learned the ability to think.
It is impossible to ever become happy for any length of time as our illusionary self is never complete and always wants more.
Thoughts are the problem as they become the “illusion” that cause the behaviour that eventually sabotages what we once cherished.
Every person has experienced a time when they have sabotaged a special friendship or even a marriage.
Even afterwards when the realisation of what they have done sinks in, they continue to cover for the “illusion” and refuse to admit that they are sorry.
This can continue for years having this event going over and over again in their mind.
The “illusion” then gains strength and we do exactly the same sabotaging act in the next relationship!”
Whatever muscles we exercise in our bodies become stronger as we use them.
It is the same with any thought we give time to inside our heads or minds.
When we allow ourselves to be controlled by any thought we eventually are controlled by that thought.
When we realise that we are not that thought and it is just a thought we are not then controlled by that thought.
It is our connection to being who we are that gives us a feeling of inadequacy or superiority.
Feeling inadequate or superior are no different from each other they are both forms of INSANITY.
This may seem to those who believe to be their Thinking Minds rather a harsh thing to say but we make no excuse for what we say.
The way of those that believe they are inferior or superior to any other Human Being are exactly what we say – forms of INSANITY.
Let us be FREE from these insane thoughts and be aware that we are neither inferior or superior in any way to anyone one else on the planet. It is as it IS.
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